HELP! My Teen is Dating
Parents, how did you learn about dating, boundaries, and intimacy? Remember how our parents stayed away from such talks? Remember all the horrible dating advice your friends gave you? The odd part is most of us actually did or tried what our friends suggested.
When it comes to dating & intimacy, discover how parents are getting their teens to listen. Imagine having an in-depth conversation about dating and sex with your teenager and then hearing him or her say, “Thanks for sharing with me. This was actually fun.” Imagine hearing your son/daughter telling you how (s)he let the guy or girl know how (s)he expects to be treated.
We need to be blunt here: sexual dangers are monumental for today’s teenagers. With TV, teen magazines, music, and movies promoting sexual activity among teens, your kids are exposed to images making sexual activity look exciting and even popular. Think of all the kids at school talking about how “far” they went on a date last weekend or even last night. The pressure for your teen to be more sexual, including engaging in sexual activity, is stronger than ever. With all the talk of fondling, oral sex, and intercourse among today’s teenagers, how do you protect your daughter or son?
You know the old parenting tactics of the past will not work with your children, and letting them find out on their own is way too dangerous and scary! With parenting magazines and websites typically geared at parents of kids under 10 years old, where do you find advice for talking to you teen? Have you tried talking to your teen about dating, sex, and intimacy? Isn’t it amazing how teenagers don’t believe you can possibly understand the feelings they are going through?
HELP! My Teen is Dating provides you with Real Solutions to Tough Conversations in the following:
How to start the talk and get your teen to listen.
The right time to allow dating.
Three questions that tell all.
What to say to your teen’s date.
The exact words for addressing intimacy and boundaries.
The power in asking first!
The best way to discuss the dangers from alcohol to sexual assault.
How to truly “be there’ for your children.
Tips to fun and safer dating for your children.
Bonus Sections:
The Internet
Spirituality, Faith & Dating
Access to Special Downloads (e-books & articles)
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Plus this interactive 80 minute DVD includes two critically acclaimed books: May I Kiss You? A Candid Look at Dating, Communication, Respect & Sexual Assault Awareness and Voices of Courage Inspiration from Survivors of Sexual Assault. By utilizing the DVD and both books, you will have all the tools needed to help you and your teenagers engage in powerful and life-changing talks.
For only $49.97 (plus s/h) you will receive a DVD and 2 books!
More on HELP! My Teen is Dating
“The Look.” If you’ve tried talking to your teen about dating, then you’ve probably already gotten the “look.” You know the one. The look of “don’t even bother.” Sometimes you give your kids that same “look” when you get frustrated with them. The more annoyed you become, the more you start to lecture. Let’s see if you can relate to any of the responses below:
Usual teenager responses to “the talk”
Rolling of the eyes
The look of “You don’t know anything. You don’t get it.”
“Yea, Yea, Whatever” as they walk away.
“I am not talking with YOU about this.”
“I’m not doing any of this stuff anyways. You don’t need to worry.”
“I get it, okay?”
As you know, many teenagers love to talk with their friends about intimacy, dating, boys, girls, and even sexual situations. If they are having fun talking to their friends while getting lectured to by their parents, who are they likely to follow? Think back to your teenage years for a moment.
As a parent, trying to “figure this out” on your own can be a very difficult. Once you say one statement your teen feels is not “cool,” you can lose your credibility with him or her. Then you are likely to fall into 1 of 2 traps. You try to overcompensate and suddenly be cool or you go into the “Because I said so” mode. Now your teen is reminded of how much you don’t understand them or their world. Suddenly, you’ve lost a golden opportunity for a vitally important connection to your teenager. Who wins? Their friends. Who loses in the long-run? You and your teen!
You can protect your teen
To overcome this communication barrier and truly protect your teen from today’s dangers, you need a precise and proven plan of what to say and how to say the right words. Once you understand the dynamics to this comprehensive plan, talking with your teenager about dating and sex no longer has to be synonymous with arguing and frustration.
Whether you are deciding the right age for them to start dating or discussing a date trying to go too far with them sexually, being properly prepared is the key to you helping your teenager make the safest choices.
As you start having more personal talks together, you must be careful with every word you choose to share with your teenager (including “how” you say it).
You need to fully explain the “why” behind every belief you share with them and they have to believe in the reasoning.
You have to understand exactly what encourages an open discussion verses the statements that stop your teenager from turning to you in a time of need.
Testimonials
When I received the DVD in the mail, I could not wait to watch it. I had read so many good reviews about the program. I watched the program with my mom and we both enjoyed it. The author and presenter of the program was so intuned with the teen population and what is happening in society now. [read more]
~Melissa Burmester, bookrusonline.com
As a mother of teens, HELP! My Teen Is Dating has proven to be a powerful tool which allowed me to begin a conversation on a sensitive topic without feeling awkward. After viewing the video with my daughter, I feel she now has the tools and insights to make healthier and safer choices. Plus, Mike Domitrz’s approach has helped remove many of my own fears.
~Laura Stockdale, Community Speakers Forum Coordinator and Parish Episcopal School Board of Trustees (Dallas, TX)
At last, a how-to kit for parents navigating the treacherous territory of teen dating. This DVD will give you the confidence, skills, and information to truly engage your child in a dialogue about the important issues teens face in these relationships.
~ Carolyn Pukl, Health Educator at Lakeland Regional High School (NJ)
Mike Domitrz offers more than practical advice for parents. Throughout, Mike actually demonstrates the tools for talking with your teen about these issues.
~Rob Rephan, Rape Prevention Education Coordinator (CA)
The DVD answers a lot of questions parents have about how far to “get involved,” how to get teenagers to trust parents, and knowing when to trust your child.
~ Nicole Saavedra, Youth Services Coordinator for East Granby (CT)
about Mike Domitrz
Author, Speaker and Executive Director of The Date Safe Project, Mike Domitrz created this interactive DVD with you in mind. Each year, he travels across the country speaking in schools and to parents. As one of the most sought-after experts, he continually hears directly from teenagers. Their e-mails and comments over the years have provided him with an inside understanding of what teenagers want and need from their parents. He takes those findings and reveals how you can use these “inside secrets” in your own home to enhance relationships with your sons and daughters in this one-of-a-kind DVD. Parents, educators and students praise his ability to make these conversations between adults and youth much easier for everyone!
